Hi Y’all! My name is Resa!
I’m a wife + Mama just striving to live a simple life. I started this blog to document our journey toward turning our 25 acres of farmland, nestled on the banks of the Tuckahoe River, into a cozy homestead! I’m passionate about all things motherhood, organization, and natural living. My hope is to pull that together in one place to help others.
We bought our home from Mike’s Mama back in 2012 when we got married. At that time, his grandfather was still farming the land surrounding our home while we both worked full time jobs as a Police SGT & Bank Manager. A lot has changed in the past 6 years though, and it’s now our turn to take over the farm responsibilities.
Our calling to live a simpler life all started in the fall of 2014 when we found out that we were expecting our first child! We were overjoyed with the news and quickly began planing for our new bundle of joy! Unfortunately, everything changed when we suffered our first miscarriage. We were absolutely devastated! It shook me to my core and I began to have a major priority shift. I knew then that our lives needed to change and that we needed to slow down! Little did I know that God had plans for a much bigger slow down than I had even imagined.
Living life in the fast lane wasn’t healthy at all. I was working at the Bank by day, and photographing weddings and family sessions in the evenings and on weekends. I had a busy social calendar too- and was just go-go-go! Mike had recently been promoted to Sergeant at work, and was learning to adjust to his new responsibilities. We weren’t eating healthy, sleeping well, or even communicating much. So, needless to say, we were like ships passing in the night.
The Holidays were somber that year. I tried my best to be grateful for what I already had, but I didn’t know what to do to make myself happy, so I prayed, journaled, and joined connect groups at church. All of these things helped, but I still felt God calling me to make a change. Right after the holidays, I found out that my bank was purchasing a group of branches belonging to another bank. One of those branches happened to be 3 miles from our home. I couldn’t believe it. Was this the change that God had called me for? I was currently driving 30+ mins a day to work and I felt super disconnected from everything at home. I prayed and prayed and prayed about it, and finally decided to apply for the transfer. I got the Job and I can honestly say it was the absolute best thing for me at the time. I needed a project and I deeply craved community. See the thing is, I didn’t grow up here, like Mike did. I moved from a tiny little Island off Maryland’s Eastern Shore when Mike and I got engaged, so I really didn’t know anyone. Becoming a part of my local community has really helped me put down roots and I can finally say that I feel at home here!
By the end of that same year, Mike had been in the ER twice with unexplainable pain. None of the doctors could figure out what was wrong with him. He tried meds, physical therapy, chiropractic care, and had more scans than I can even count. Come June, he had been to the ER several more times and his doctors had put him out on long term sick leave while they tried to figure out what was going on. We had recently found out that we were expecting again, so the idea of him not working completely terrified both of us. Pregnancy hormones mixed with the absolute fear of losing my husband and another pregnancy at the same time completely overwhelmed me.
Thankfully, by October of that year, we finally received Mike’s first definitive diagnosis of Ankylosing Spondylitis. This condition is an autoimmune disease that impacts his spine, joints, and tendons. There is no cure for the disease and to this day, Mike has not responded to any of the treatments the doctors have offered. Chronic illness is hard y’all! Especially when it’s a disability that can’t be seen physically. Mike deals with a considerable amount of pain on a daily basis, and still does his best to do whatever he can. Mike’s Mama is a nurse and together we’ve done our best to advocate for his care. We still believe in modern medicine, but we’ve found that the treatments that he has responded to the best have actually been of natural origin. I’ll share more about all of that on the blog!
The highlight of this whole story happened in November of that year though, when Little Miss Lela Grace was born! She was 3 weeks early and had quite the dramatic entrance into the world. I’ll save my birth story for a later blog post. Just know that she is the absolute light of our lives and has given both of us so much purpose!
Mike and I had always planned that I would stay home to raise our children, but that just was not an option when my maternity leave was over. Mike officially retired the day that I returned to work and I continue to hold my job managing the local bank in our teeny-tiny little town. Lela will be turning 2 within a few short weeks and as she grows, she becomes more and more aware of my absence. She begs me not to leave in the mornings, and clings to me on nights and weekends. I often come home exhausted and feel terrible that she receives my left overs instead of my absolute best. I’m feeling that still small voice calling me to go even smaller these days, and that’s exactly why I’ve started this blog. The more I pray that God would reveal his plans for me, the more I feel called to simplify my entire life. I don’t know exactly what that will look like at this point, but I do know that I’ll no longer be chasing society’s definition of success.
I hope you’ll join me on my journey as I hold on tight to what matters most, as I attempt to let go of the rest!
Photo Credit: Amanda Erickson Design & Photography